Complaining about and refusing to recognize someone’s gender identity is pretty much the same thing as complaining about and refusing to use their name:

  • It doesn’t make any fucking sense.
  • It’s selfish and condescending.
  • It makes you look like an asshole.

If you can remember someone’s name, you can remember their gender identity. Someone asking you to use their preferred gender pronouns isn’t oppression. It’s a simple request for courtesy. It’s a reasonable accommodation that can be made to help us more easily live in a pluralistic society. We make these minor adjustments all day, every day. This one is no different.